I have to admit...I hadn't really thought the night shift through. I had this picture of him working for 4 days...sleeping through the day while I was at work or off doing errands, keeping the kid out of his hair. And then would come his 3 day weekend and he would be back to sleeping in our bed...for at least a few hours, we'd be able to touch base. And I'm not talking sex here...I'm talking "sleeping with my husband"...which is not happening...not even on those 3 days off. Why? Because, duh...he has to keep to the same schedule even on his days off. Intellectually, I knew this...but it didn't sink in until he started the shift.
We are now on week two and have not slept in the same bed for as long. Without providing TMI...our intimate life isn't suffering...he comes home before I leave for work most mornings and "visits" before I go to sleep on his nights off. But still...I miss sleeping with the man I married.
It's really quite medieval...he has his own room (completely blocked from all light) where he keeps all of his cop stuff and can just come home, drop it all on the floor, and crash...at any time of day or night. It allows me to use our room/master bath when he's sleeping without disturbing him.
I really cannot wait until he is back on days...but that is a month and a half away.
I'm not sure how to deal with an empty bed half of the year. His dept. has 4 shifts (two day and two night - different times)...so for at least 6 months he'll be on one or the other of the night shifts.
Unthrilled. Very unthrilled.
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